Why not take care of you? That's the hardest thing to do and often the most rewarding.
More than a few people have suggested seeking out individual counseling for the extended trauma you've gone through. You're a strong passionate woman who's gotten used to holding the world up on her shoulders.
But that's not living.
As a good friend told me at the onset of the divorce, "If you broke your arm would you fix it yourself? And if you did how good a job would it be? You go to a professional. Seeking counseling is one and the same. You still have to process all these emotions.. it's better, easier and faster to do it with the help of a professional."
I fought my way against her advice and resisted. Then another doc actually called up the psychologist asking her to make an appointment for me. I was too scared to move forward.
I remember months ago you posted to me when I was down that I was someone who continually grew through this process. It touched my heart and helped so much. And one of the reasons why.. aside from having strong support of family and friends.. was having the counselor who's helped me learn to stop hurting myself and become healthy.
Seeking professional help was something I was insulted by, didn't want, felt I was stronger than.. but has been the best thing that's ever happened.