[/quote=pigskin] I honestly believe that my ordeal has made me a better person in many ways. Primarily, it has completely reawakened me in my faith, and there is no going back. For that, I am extremely grateful, as now I feel I am finally "walking the talk".
Secondly, it has made me realize how important it is to nurture a marriage relationship, to share feelings, and communicate.
I have no question that if I were to ever marry again, I would be much better "armed".
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I feel exactly the same on this. I feel i'm so much closer to God because of my ordeal. Sometime i feel perhaps it's part of God's plan for me, and I feel at peace with my sitch. Because if it's God's plan, it will be perfect for me, even though i don't know what is is yet. I just have to trust. God is good and he works for the good of those who loves him.
I agree with one of the other poster who said your W and OM have no idea what Christianity is about. You might want to tell your W that adultery is a sin, and therefore God cannot have brought OM into her life so she can commmit a sin. God doesn't make us sin, only the devil does.
Yep xin, it really is all about trust. I find when I am consciously making an effort to completely trust what God has in store for me, I don't have feelings of anxiety, fear, or bitterness. It does feel like you are completely letting go of the steering wheel and letting Him decide where to take you.
Don't worry, my W has heard enough from me about adultery being a sin. She knows it. She just seems to be OK with it. Nothing comes from God that goes against His Word, since He doesn't tempt us. It's just our own desires that cause us to believe it is from Him.
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