How does a spouse forgive their WS for the A and still maintain their self respect? I have read on the forum that the WS has to earn back the LBSs trust, etc.
I want to let him know that I understand how an A happens, that we can move past it, that I want to work on ways to stop it from ever happening again. I understand that I won't be able to do this while he is still in contact with her, but the A has come up several times and I'm not sure what to say or not say about it. I don't want him to think I'm punishing him for what he did, but I don't want him to think that I am ok with what he did either. And because of the MLC, and his confusion about what he wants to do..give up the marriage, go to her or find someone totally new, work on the marriage..it's a scary subject to navigate.
You have to start with yourself first....
Tay, you are still thinking you can talk this through....
