Yes, Puppy..I agree. I didn't mean to imply (and I'm sure my H took it that way too) that I would sit around forever and wait for him to get his sh## together. Life is short and I want to be happy too. I'm not real big on deadlines, internal or external. When it feels right, that's when I do whatever it is I feel I need to do. And I guess that's the key..when it feels right for me. My best friend listens so patiently and always says that when I'm ready I'll do what needs to be done..GAL, D, quit smoking... whatever it is.