New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Hi Michelle,

Thanks for the guidance. Been dark for 3 weeks now. No significant news to report. I understand the "I get it" speech. Sounds like the river of no return...Not sure yet if I'm ready for that. Maybe because once the "I get it" speech is launched there is no turning back. Like you said "the next step will probably be D".

The boundary I set up with the finances is still holding. I just deposit the money in her account each month and that's it. I don't check what she spends it on. I don't want to snoop. I do keep track of each deposit I make so there is never a doubt that I didn't fulfill my financial obligations towards the children.

Here is a little development. Not sure if it means anything at all: My sister calls me and tells me she has been corresponding with my W on Facebook. My sister didn't want to tell me in the beginning, but finally shared this info last week. Apparently they actually started recently.

My sister and W have always been good friends, but have not kept in touch since W and I separated. I just told my sister to not tell me anything about what they talk about. I asked her to keep all her conversations with W private. I don't want W to think I'm using my sister to get to W. I was wondering, if W wants to stay separated or divorce, then why initiate contact with my sister? Just a question.

Still looking forward to my time with the Boys. It will be great. I can't wait.

JR