i am reading glover's book, and find most of it relating to my nice guy ways, but also don't agree with some other issues. for example: washing cars, going away alone, trying not to be your father, doing things for others because you want a reward or want to be liked.
what if you like your car nice and clean, and it has nothing to do with wanting others to like you for it? am i wrong for this attitude? does this make me a nice guy? my car is filthy because of a water shortage in my town, and because i haven't had the opportunity to get it to the car wash.
what's wrong with not being like your father? what if your father left you when you were 11 and really didn't give you a whole lot except for advice and words? what if he is and was a good guy, but was never there for you when you needed some money,or clothes,because he said he never had the money? what if i want to be like him personality wise, but different when it comes to spending money? what if i want to stay in this ssm until i deem the kids are old enough to understand why i am leaving, unlike he who just left when i was 11, and didn't really understand what was going on?
