Just wanted to drop by and echo everyone else's comments, RW. I haven't been able to read every page of your sitch, but from here and the alt know enough. I think you're holding your head high and doing the best you can, and I'm glad that you've gotten some closure from talking with H. Most don't get that.
I agree with the comment about teens knowing stuff is going on- I did, for years. Which is sad from a parent's point of view, but if there's been open conflict (don't know in your sitch), parts of this could come as a relief. No matter what, they have your love, you to pull them through this and a fine example of a resiliant woman who does things with class.
I wish you luck over the coming days and will be following along.
omg. KUDOS! You will get through this. We;re all here for you and praise you for taking care of yourself. Please keep us updated on how the process unfolds. The kids will be ok, and so will you.
I am so sorry you have to do all of this yucky stuff. You made it over this hurdle. Rest, and be kind to yourself.
-A
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.