I'm tempted to say that to H, but i'm not sure if i can do that to him as i know it's going to be hard for him to find another place and i don't see the point of hanging around. It has been more than 6 mhts since I found out about his A and i've done everything i can to try and change his mind, from crying and begging to GAL and not pursuing, but it hasn't changed a thing. What would continuing to hang in here achieve?
Hi Xin,
Saying much of anything to H while H is having A is pretty much an exercise in futility. However, f*&k him, w/him having a hard time finding living arrangements. H wasn't all that concerned about you when he started banging OW. You don't owe H anything now. All bets were off the table when he started A.
I'm not trying to be overly harsh w/you, I'm just giving you my insight from where I am, a little further down the road than where you currently are. I did the same thing w/my H, and so far, it hasn't really gotten me too far.
If you feel that moving is your best option, then by all means, move. This was my deciding factor to move, as opposed to making my H move. In some ways, I wish I had sucked it up & stayed and made H move. Hindsight is 20/20 and all that jazz.
At this point, you have to make decisions based on what is best for you. If and when you R w/H, then, and only then, does H become a factor in your decision making process.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
