I won't cancel plans I have already made next time. I promise. I will take the oppurtunity tomorrow to have a fun time with my Daughters. Maybe flirt a little like Soxfan suggested. I guess most of all just show him I am going to be fine no matter what he finally decides to do. I think if nothing else this goes to show how confused he is with himself and what he wants.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
Since you've already agreed to go, do make it a fun day for the girls. Do not spend your time and energy trying to make it a fun day for the man who just dumped you.
Be polite and pleasant but do not be overly gregarious or flirtatious. Remember, no pursuing because pursuit=pressure.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Since you've already agreed to go, do make it a fun day for the girls. Do not spend your time and energy trying to make it a fun day for the man who just dumped you.
pearl is right. no flirting (unless it's with somebody else ). Give him space to chase you.
Hi, hope you don't mind me posting but just had to say that this is exactly what my H did. He left the same day he said he wanted a D and then 2 weeks later suggested a day out with our S. This went on for 4 months - lovely, fun days out, even a 4 day break (cos he couldn't bare to let me and S go alone) and even a couple of meals for just the two of us, at the end of each day out he'd say - "it doesn't mean anything so don't read things into it" and I'd just smile and say "I know".....after 4 months he out of the blue announced he thought he'd made a mistake and came home. I never understood it, and he can't explain why he did all those days out even now. Thought it might be useful for you to know this - there might be more days out and as the others have said - go on them and show how fun you are!! Hope you have a great day!
Thanks for your reply inpain. Yes, it is very confusing why they want a divorce then turns around and want to plan family fun days. Sorry if it appears I took your post title, I had no idea it was already in use. It was just how I was feeling at that moment, and continue to feel actually.
We had a fun time at the park, I enjoyed myself on the rides with my Daughters. We had some alone time while the Girls were on rides but no relathionship talk was brought up.
I would say it was a good day. Although I still do not know what it means or if it means anything at all.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
Don't bother trying to figure out why they do what they do... it'll just drive yu crazy!!!!
I told my H I wanted a D, and 2 days after we get home he's asking us all to go to the movies, what I want for dinner, how my day was, why I'm cleaning, doing dishes, cleaning the house..... all of a sudden he's mister chatty caty and molly maid.
maintain your sanity by concentrating on what you are doing, not what and why he is doing stuff.
remember, next time he asks to do something, you have plans.
My favorite, is "Thanks, that sounds like fun but I already have plans. I bet the kids will love it, you should take them with you...kids!!!!!!! Dad has a question for you!!!!!"
Then I have time to go get a mani and pedi to relax.
). Give him space to chase you.
