You are a married COUPLE... you two don't do important things like this in private, you do them as a COUPLE
You buy a home as a couple You have a baby as a couple You deal with cancer as a couple You deal with infidelity as a couple
This No contact letter should be written and signed by BOTH of you... written AS a UNIFIED COUPLE and sent with BOTH your names on it from an email account with both your names in the username
MrAndMrsPeachy@hotmail.com
etc
You don't ask HIM to do this privately and to send you a copy or any of that nonsense
You don't ask him to clean the PC out privately, you do it TOGETHER.. you rebuild your marriage TOGETHER
I know its painful and you may not want to see what he's been doning but you NEED to KNOW how BAD this has gotten so you KNOW what you're DEALING with
You can't just drop this in his lap and ask him to take care of it... THAT is a time bomb just waiting to go off...
Do it TOGETHER as a COUPLE...
Do important things... good AND BAD as a couple
if your kid gets run over by a car and you have to go to the hospital, you do it AS A COUPLE, etc
This woman needs to see a COUPLE challenging her and asking her to NOT DEFILE this marriage ANYMORE and that you both WANT HER to LEAVE
Both names at the bottom, you both have read it and are happy with it..
GOt that?
This is a practice you need to get USED to.. do it TOGETHER.. that is the answer to MOST of the questions about marriage
You deal with it TOGETHER... you don't dump problems in the spouses lap and sit and wait for them to deal with them.. that's not fair...
if you want a NC letter done you start one, ask him to make some changes... INSIST he read it and make some changes... so it is from BOTH of you..
This is important that you do things together, from now on... as a COUPLE.. starting NOW
Start with the no contact letter and PC clean up... together is the answer...
