CW don't be so self deprecating! (((hugs!))) we each have our own tolerance levels and we know our Hs like no one else does. So you did it when you were ready! So what if it wasn't until now, right?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004