Trying to fix everything comes across as controlling. You have to let people solve their own issues if you want healthy adult relationships.
Sometimes people just share their problems because they want you to listen and are looking for validation. If they don't ask for your help specifically, it's usually better to assume they don't want your help than it is to assume they do and start telling them what they need to do.
I agree with TimeHeals (is the sky falling??)
It's usually best to say something like...if you need anything I'm here for you.
Telling the kids sucks. Just remember in the up coming days if they have questions to be honest with them (as honest as you can- no out right lies, but omitting info is ok). Even if one asks if you still love mommy. Short, simple, honest, to the point answers that only answer the question asked- don't go spouting sermons.
