I'd like to glean some wisdom from you guys on a few things. I definitely don't want to turn this thread into a "recommendations" list- these are for me personally to make my vague thread more useful to me :-).
1. What is the best advice you wish you'd gotten when you were earlier in the process (pre-filing, early stages, maybe still living together but trying to plan ahead)? Kid involved.
2. If you moved out and have kid(s), did you get a temporary support order before doing that? If you did, did you set it up with spouse or through Ls? If you're further on, did it form the basis for the permanent order? If you didn't get one, do you wish you had b/c it would've helped you argue for the permanent order? Doesn't matter where you live, I'm just gathering info for now
3. Other than The Good Divorce and the Sandcastles book I've heard good things about, what other books (or websites) addressing how to help your kids through this and co-parenting do you recommend?
4. Do you know of any books/websites that make custody/visitation arrangement recommendations based on children's ages (and hopefully have the credentials and/or data to back that up)?
5. If you were an LBS but you eventually took action yourself after waiting through limbo for awhile, what was it that prompted you to act- what did you wait for or say "ah, this is it, the final straw, the definitive sign. I'm not holding out hope anymore b/c NOW it's clear there's no future" or something happened that made it clear to you that even though this whole D thing wasn't your choice, that you yourself would move it along, even if you were just trying a Gucci approach to get their attention. I know everyone's sitch is different, but I'm interested in some stories here.
