You know, C2H, I was thinking today that people who didn't want the divorce are going to state the stark reality (and if anyone is skeptical, read "The Legacy of Divorce" which is a 25 year longitudinal study on children of divorce. It follows them into adulthood. It is super depressing.).
But those who want the divorce will cling to the tidbits about the kids adjusting fine and push us to be happy and willing, etc. blech!!!!
I agree with this. Our Hs really aren't thinking about the impact their actions are having on our boys, they're too busy convincing themselves that kids are adaptable and our DSs will be fine.
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