Just wanted to drop by and echo everyone else's comments, RW. I haven't been able to read every page of your sitch, but from here and the alt know enough. I think you're holding your head high and doing the best you can, and I'm glad that you've gotten some closure from talking with H. Most don't get that.
I agree with the comment about teens knowing stuff is going on- I did, for years. Which is sad from a parent's point of view, but if there's been open conflict (don't know in your sitch), parts of this could come as a relief. No matter what, they have your love, you to pull them through this and a fine example of a resiliant woman who does things with class.
I wish you luck over the coming days and will be following along.
