CW I get that you are following MLC advice but I have the hardest time with not enforcing a visitation schedule! You get a break from being the sole parent in addition to the kids not feeling rejected by their dad.
If people need to explain this to me, feel free but....why not set something up? WHat is the harm? (((hugs)))
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I dropped the ball on setting a visitation schedule up with H. That is next on my agenda. When we last talked (can't believe it was April) about that, was when H told me he was moving in with OW...I didn't even want to talk anymore about it....now, it has just been a matter of finding time in our schedules, he works nights, I work days and there has been something going on at all times OR the kids are around....
These are really just excuses...maybe I just wasn't ready but I am pretty sure I am now!
He did call back this morning and is talking it over with OW....UGH!!!!!!! AS IF what she thinks matters! Whatever...he is supposed to call me back...he sounded positive about having them.
Well, had a little time open at work so ran home to make sure kids aren't out running wild!
Can we pray that this may cause some tension between them?
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
CW - glad H called back. Yeah that talking it over with OW...be a man...say my kids are coming over and that's that. What if she has "plans" I guess then you are out of luck...sucks.
Visitation schedule would help you...you can schedule your activities around that and don't have to ask him for "favors". Sounds like you are ready to get that going.
(((hugs)))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
CW, I guess it is another example of when we do stuff when we are READY and have HAD it!
Well you can be assured that it will cause tension between he and OW..it already is- he has to "check" with her?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
CW, NM is right. It will probably cause some tension between H and ow. Can't believe that my H's ow resents the time he spends with our girls, (Have proof in black and white.) and she's a mother, no less.
Can't imagine your H's ow will be fond of having the kids around a whole lot, especially not having any of her own. After all, kids have a way of bursting the romantic fantasy life bubble.
A visitation schedule is great for the kids, too. That way they know "I see Dad every Thursday" and it gives them consistency. And yes, hopefully the kids being there will help cause some tension between your H and OW.
New thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2112303
CW don't be so self deprecating! (((hugs!))) we each have our own tolerance levels and we know our Hs like no one else does. So you did it when you were ready! So what if it wasn't until now, right?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
