It was a great day yesterday celebrating my daughter's birthday. We did a lot of running around so it was quite busy.
W came to the house and we all went to Toy Story 3. Then came back and had dinner and cake.
All in all a very pleasant scene with the whole family together. Although I noted to myself that this is likely the last time we celebrate any birthday together as a family, I didn't dwell on it. Getting sentimental is just counterproductive. While I'd love to have an intact family, I was reminded by a comment or two how I don't want to be around the person my W is right now.
At the end of the evening my W thanked me for inviting her to celebrate with us. "It was very nice, and unexpected."
She figured I would celebrate the birthday without her, as she had planned to do a celebration today at the inlaws.
I just said "You're welcome." Noting more.
Quite a change from Sunday's interaction, but I am really viewing her as a crazy person now. I expect random moods, snippy comments, and zero reciprocation on kindness. Almost like spinning the big Price is Right wheel and rolling with whatever pops up.
She came over to pick up the kids today as we were just about to sit down for lunch. I asked if she'd like to eat with us and she accepted. Another flashback to happier days, but I just take 'em for what they are - a nice piece of candy that quickly dissolves.
Finished the bulk of my L's initial questionnaire, just have to attach some copies of documents and mail it back, which I will do this week.
Sounds like you are doing exactly the right thing.
I admire your ability to stay civil with this "crazy" person. It's the right thing to do.
I am still trying but feel as if I'm running out of steam. She won't leave because she has no where to go. I won't leave because it's not the right thing to do. I may be making more progress that I realize expect big improvements. Things have improved somewhat. She still talks the D talk but is shocked that I went to consult a L. Why would she be surprised? IDK but I am wearing out.
I'm glad you are at peace with things and realize that you will be a better person after this is all behind you.
Thanks for your support. I still need it from everyone.
