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[DumpedforMIL]

Often, anger is used to avoid feeling the underlying hurt.

i think i get it now.
forrest and coach have been drilling it in me for weeks (if not months). i never understood why he was so angry at me .. sometimes i have to talk it out like this.

the anger in my h is masking the underlying hurt that he is feeling.
probably feelings of rejection from me.

i'm so sorry for making you (my h) feel that way.

[Dudess]

Often, anger is used to avoid feeling the underlying hurt.

i think i get it now.
forrest and coach have been drilling it in me for weeks (if not months). i never understood why he was so angry at me .. sometimes i have to talk it out like this.

the anger in my h is masking the underlying hurt that he is feeling.
probably feelings of rejection from me.

i'm so sorry for making you (my h) feel that way.

Yes, and, also take a look at the feelings underneath YOUR anger.

[DumpedforMIL]

Yes, and, also take a look at the feelings underneath YOUR anger.

i know i'm definitely hurt but what exactly is hurting me?
i need to figure that out.

every once in a while, i get one of these lightbulb moments. the info in this thread is one of those lightbulb moments.

thanks for asking the right questions and getting me to open up about this.

i do want to continue exploring this.