At work, he is all business. He has taken the approach that to be the nice guy he was just makes him look like a chump and everyone will walk all over him. Honestly, he has had quite a following over the years of people he's mananged..because they all like him and his style so much..but now he's decided that everyone is taking advantage of him, controlling him, walking all over him. So he's going to TELL them how it'g going to be and if they don't like it they can find another job.
He seems to be civil to my kids (who all love him dearly)but does not initiate contact with them at all (he and my son used to be quite close), and he is very attentive to his only child..a daughter-20 who lives many hours away. he is one of those people who wear their heart on their sleeve, so you can tell by the expression on his face if he is sincere, disgusted, mad, sad, etc.
He doesn't have any friends. The only people he ever talks to about his stuff or does things with is me and his mom. We did go with a couple we both know over Memorial weeknd. He pretended like everything was ok and was very attentive to me.
He is a workaholic. Very successful at what he does. He doesn't get close to very many people even tho eveyone likes him and has fun when he's around. He's one of those guys that is good at everything he sets his mind to. Right now it's his work, diet/exercise, me and OW..in that order.
That would be personality.....right?
Your marriage seems to be the only thing under attack huh?
Understanding this is all well and fine, just understand that YOU have work to do as well, for you...
And a lot of this dwelling on, him this and him that, CAN keep YOU stuck in one spot, paralyzing your growth.
Read and understand....ask questions....
DO NOT , let this consume the you, that is underneath all of this emotional garbage on your front door right now....
