I say call teh CO and her mom... I don't care how much confidence or not her mother has in saving th emarriage, this is about RESPECTING the person you are living with now... You may not be able to stop a PA but you don't have to sit back in silence and SUPPORT DISRESPECT by keeping QUIET

SPeak up when you are being bullied like this... Either speak up to the CO and evryone who may put some kind of pressure on her to show RESPECT for the duration of the marriage...

I say you roll the dice iwth her motehr... I don't expect her mother to STOP her, but her motehr at LEAST knows what kind of daughter she's raised and the LIES your WIFE has told her MOTHER.. her MOTHER deserves to KNOW she's been LIED to...

You are calling her motehr to clean up THAT.. not to stop an affair

If that stops the affair then that's just a bonus