Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Allen A]

I say call teh CO and her mom... I don't care how much confidence or not her mother has in saving th emarriage, this is about RESPECTING the person you are living with now... You may not be able to stop a PA but you don't have to sit back in silence and SUPPORT DISRESPECT by keeping QUIET

SPeak up when you are being bullied like this... Either speak up to the CO and evryone who may put some kind of pressure on her to show RESPECT for the duration of the marriage...

I say you roll the dice iwth her motehr... I don't expect her mother to STOP her, but her motehr at LEAST knows what kind of daughter she's raised and the LIES your WIFE has told her MOTHER.. her MOTHER deserves to KNOW she's been LIED to...

You are calling her motehr to clean up THAT.. not to stop an affair

If that stops the affair then that's just a bonus

[Allen A]

And I will also point out QS

Keeping silent or speaking up.. tha'ts what it boils down to

If you keep silent, is that MORE lilkey to produce a PA or LESS likely?

Do you really think you keeping QUIET is going to keep your WIFE monogamous?

[Seeing Red]

I am so reluctant to contact this guy's CO. I mean that will blow up into a huge mess.

Look at it this way, QS: which are you willing to sacrifice here, his job...or your marriage?

Because my guess is that if he loses his job or is reprimanded, it will take the sparkle off the affair. He may even end with your wife, he's so ticked. If he goes ballistic and tries to get in your face and get physical, call the cops. Get a restraining order.

[Allen A]

QS. if you stay silent do you really think your wife will find that attractive? That some creep hits on HER and you say nothing? Do you think she will find that sexy?

I serioulsy doubt it...

Some people flirt and play fast with their commitments just to see what their spouse is made of...

[Quicksilver264]

I say you roll the dice iwth her motehr... I don't expect her mother to STOP her, but her motehr at LEAST knows what kind of daughter she's raised and the LIES your WIFE has told her MOTHER.. her MOTHER deserves to KNOW she's been LIED to...

I did just that. But her mother has given up hope. I am just wondering how much stock the CO is going to put in my phone call? There hasn't been any PHYSICAL interaction, so I don't know how much the CO will care in that respect either. I know, excuses, excuses ect. I am half thinking about contacting him too, and let him know that Hell is about to rain down on him. But that's probably not a good idea.

I guess tomorrow is going to be it, and I am going to do it. Now I just have to sit through another night of sex chats and/or phone sex.

QS. if you stay silent do you really think your wife will find that attractive? That some creep hits on HER and you say nothing? Do you think she will find that sexy?

I serioulsy doubt it...

Some people flirt and play fast with their commitments just to see what their spouse is made of...

She thought it was pretty hot that he "scared me off" so to speak.

And she also told him that she actually wanted him to do it because she was so mad at me for exposing him.

She is REALLY far gone Allen. Some of the things she said last night are just horrific, and I can't believe she wants to do stuff like that with him.

[DaddyLongShanks]

QS. if you stay silent do you really think your wife will find that attractive? That some creep hits on HER and you say nothing? Do you think she will find that sexy?

I serioulsy doubt it...

Some people flirt and play fast with their commitments just to see what their spouse is made of...

Being bullied and not responding will make it worse. The pair may start up more serious matters against you in the future. You pretty much have to contact the CO and if you have any other ways you can go with this you need to.

[Allen A]

Do NOT WARN the guy, he's going to tell his CO there's some crazy guy that's been emailing him

You tell th CO that this guy is having internet sex with your wife and you insist that it STOP NOW

You tell him you have tons of printouts and screen shots of the behaviour and you will not tolerate that by one of his team

Wondering how he might react? If he ignores you so what.. you TRIED.. you are gonna KICK yourself ayear from now if you DON'T.. you will be wondering why you chocked on it...

Do NOT warn the OM you are going to expose... VERY BAD IDEA... you aer HOPING he will agree to back off again and then you don't have to do the dirty work... you can't TRUST this guy...

JAM the network for thenight then... or keep interrupting her or do whatver you have to do to make it NOT FUN

[Allen A]

And you PHONE the CO, you don't just email him.. that's cowardly

[DaddyLongShanks]

Getting bullied starts up small and ends up big. They will be picking on you for entertainment if this keeps up. You have to end it decisively. Be a man.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

And you PHONE the CO, you don't just email him.. that's cowardly

AGREED.