@ FourMoreYears: Thanks! My hubby was the same. It was like he expected a BJ after clearing the table.
@DanF:
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“Soxfan feels she has been doing all the work. Does dhe recognize and acknowledge all her husband has done?”
Yes, I recognize all that my husband has done. In my sit though, we rent. Something needs to be done, I call someone to do it. I pay the lawn service. I get my car serviced. I take care of the grill/propane….. I pay all the bills except his car payment. He does do his own laundry though- and is in charge of food (that's a whole 'nuther problem) When rooms need painting; me. Things fixed; me.Built, put together; me. He wants to be treated like the best thing since sliced bread when he vacuums the house, but I have never gotten a thank you for making sure we have a roof over our head, the kids have clothes, etc. He says he tells his family all the time how hard I work….really? Wouldn’t it be nice to tell me?
But I'm not back here because of all that. That crap, I can get over and be fine with. I say thank you, please, I ask for help, don't nag for it to be done, do it myself when H doesn't do it without saying anything....etc. It is tiring and does wear you down, but you get over it and move on. Being a matyre is more tiring.
@IDU:
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she has started telling me where every penny is spent and how we could save money by buying some room darkening shades, turning the AC up, making the kids take shorter showers, etc. Yet she won't commit to making the M work.
Weren’t you worried about money?? To me that seems like a babystep. And anger is to be expected- although frustration sometimes comes off as and is misinterpreted as anger.
