Next tidbit...was telling my friend C about the custody class and expressing how I am just so upset that S has an increased risk for divorce, that he will have a bizarre perspective on marriage since he will have 2 homes and split half the week (although I truly want him to have the best scenario for establishing good relationships with me and his dad...and that means 50/50...but it is STILL like a weird social experiment to me...)
I've been thinking about this lately. This is what I've come up with.
Life happens. Circumstances intrude. Parents get sick, lose jobs, pack up their families and move; sometimes parents pass away; kids are raised with or without extended families. They have a good or bad school experience. They live with or without family financial issues. And yes – their parents are divorced or together.
I don’t mean to be dismissive. I guess really what I’ve come to is that this is a worry that is no longer under my control. Life happened. I wonder how what the stats are on all the other variables you can think of?
Life is not ideal. It’s not supposed to be. It has challenges. Some of them suck. BUT – this will be part of their story. All we can do as parents is to use the resources at our disposal to raise them the best we can. And yeah, help them through the challenges.
People live all kinds of different lives.
So, in trying to cope with this because I have to… that’s what I’ve come up with.
