Is this piecing?

[flowmom]

Hope, it sounds like your H isn't hearing you at all. Any chance of working on a coparenting plan with him? Getting some objective outside input on what is right for your S and how you and your H can work on that? It might make a difference if he hears it from an outside party. Also, it might help you to identify what issues absolutely need to be addressed and what issues you can let slide...I get the sense that you are very triggered in this situation and having trouble sorting out where to take a stand. A psychologist could help with this. I know that you want to gain some power in the divorce process, but if it does get ugly it's unlikely to be in your S's long-term best interest.

(((hugs)))