I don't think that I have tried to control her at all, perhaps until I found out about the OM in mid-May and filed for D. Then I would agree that I have tried to control the sitch.
In the past, I feel like I let her do whatever she wanted to. I never denied a request and I really didn't try to manage her life. She wanted to live where we live, keep her same job with no promotions, work part-time after we had kids. We went to movies and restaurants she wanted to go to.
