Thanks Daddy, I am concentrating on that. I finally broke down and had a discussion about some of the crap gonig on in the house. I told her that it is not acceptable behavior to be yellnig at S. I also told her that she needs to limit the amount of time on Facebook while we are around or I am shutting off the network. If she continues with the constant texting and such, she either needs to leave the room or I will ask her to leave. Asked about some spending that I found out about and she came straight out and told me what it was for. So she is being honest when i ask her, but sneaky in that she is just doing it. So I told her that the sneaking around needs to stop or she can find another place to live. She said she was not sneaking around, but I gave her examples of what I meant and then she said she understood. Do not know exactly what that meant but I told her what I expect.
But here is somethnig else that bothers me. She has a freind that she had in high school and just recently reconnected with after 20 years. This friend recently D her H. H last week was accidentally shot in head and in IC. So W went to help friend out and that was nice and all. But like I mentioned before, spent more time in 1 day at the hospital with F than she did the 3 1/2 days I was in hospital. W texted F and had S say he loved her. That was a week ago. Last night W receives update on F's XH. F thanked W for all her help. W writes back saying NP and that she loved her. Wife has not said I love you in any text or email to me in years. I realize that WAW has been building for years, but this hurt that a friend that she has not been close to for 20 years is close enough to W that she would say that. Me who has been with her for 20 years gets sh!$.
After the talk with her I decided that I finally am just going to go about business as usual. I also mentioned her diabetes problem and she said that the doctor cost too much. I asked if it was worth her life. She immediately turned it into the fact that I am 100 lbs overweight and have already been in the hospital once this year with heart issues. (My heart issues are aniety attacks. EKG read like a textbook for health the doctor says.) So I proposed this, she goes to the doctor and I will go on whatever diet she has to so that it will keep both of us in line. She did not 100% agree, but I made progress. The more I look up on the diabetes problem the more I think it has a contributing factor in our relationship problems as well. She is not thinking clearly, mood problems (she blames this on me), and sexual problems, stomach problems, and the list goes on. For MANY reasons it is in my best interest to get her help. So that is what I am pushing for now. But no matter what, I want to start tosing the weight and that way even if things go south in the end, I will have an easier time of picking up the pieces and dating again.
I'm starting to think the old school method of shooting the guy or having his a$$ beaten severly is the best way. First it teaches him that its not good to screw with a wife of yours. It teaches others not to screw with wives. And it teaches anyone who knows about it not to screw with a wife of yours.
