About tidbit #3, yeah slippery slope for sure. I don't know if most people have this or not, but I totally had a crush on someone a few years ago from work. Nothing happened at all. But it was dangerous, and I regret it. I don't know what I could have done differently (get a new job?) but this person turned out to be a player and my interest turned to disdain after a while. (Okay, a year and a half, I'll be honest.)
I told WH about it. I think it actually plays into our sitch now. I think it created some insecurity in him that I didn't mean. I wanted WH as much as I do now and as much as I ever have. It was just an 'ego boost' as you say NM.
If we R, it will be something I bring up. Even if we don't, it may be a last resort for me before divorce. Bringing up this crush of mine and really apologizing for any damage it may have caused.
Sigh.
In saying that I don't know what I could have done differently, I do know. I should have focused on romancing WH. And I don't think I did. Regrets!
me, 30 WH, 29 D born June 2010 M: July 2001 Bomb/S: 1/14/10 Done with it all.