Yep, C2H, I am joining in...I don't think you have to wait to date, I think you shouldn't date someone with the expectation of a relationship. It sounds like you are getting your hopes up with 31. I see this so often-and it will leak through when you go out with 31...she will sense it! Keep it light! Find another woman to be interested in as well. Or take the challenge of being without someone for 6 more months....I honestly think women are more able to do this than men! Sorry if I am sounding sexist...just based on observations from these threads.

Here is how to date without being serious...You go out, laugh, talk, kiss goodnight. Go out again, make out. Dating doesn't mean you have to sleep with the person. Kissing for sure!!! laugh

See for me, I don't want to risk going out for fun but then finding a guy I really like but not being ready for a relationship. So I am waiting until I ready for a relationship and THEN will go out for fun.

Also I agree with everything Golfgirl said about her age (sorry awest...but your 23 and 24 year old friends haven't been married that long yet...don't they want kids? I believe you that at 28 YOU are grounded and so could the 31 year old but she still will want a family probably!...)

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004