It seemed and still seems like I can't do anything right. She has admitted all of the changes I have made, but it still doesn't matter. It is her lack of feelings for me and her belief that her feelings will never change is what is causing her to divorce me now.
Yeah, I heard that speech too. Didn't matter what I did... because she was tied up in an EA, and everything I did was part of some sinister conspiracy to make her look bad or something.
Water off a duck's back now, but at the time... well, I found this place while googling "My wife hates me".
Sure the EA/PA will effect their thinking but the feelings are what you are after. Men need to understand that anger or nagging is good from you wife. The fact that they commented on the changes (your actions) is proof it matters to your wives. They challenge you on them to see if you are strong enough to weather their emotions. It should matter to you on how you handle yourself. A woman can sense if you are doing things to fix/suck up vs doing something attractive to her because it's the right thing to do and if they are unsure they test you. I have been where you guys are.
Watch how you view things - "I can't do anything right." "everything I did was part of some sinister conspiracy to make her look bad or something." This is a pessimistic style of thinking and it lets someone else dictate how you feel about yourself. Look up Martin Seligman and Learned Optimism it's a book that can help you guys.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
