Scwred up and need advice

[CPCajun]

I'll have to be quick after the call. I am sure MIL is going to call W immediately afterwards. I do not want her to give W the bomb.

Yeah, I thought of that, and that IS the downside of doing it in this order. I would ask your MIL: "Out of respect for (your wife's first name), I think she deserves to hear this from me first, so I'd ask that you not call her when I leave. I'm sure she'll call you right after I talk to her. Okay??"

She may not give you that, or may agree and then not DO that, but it really doesn't matter. Your wife is just as likely to lie and spin to you with the heads-up or without it.

Puppy

Theory.....W has already told my daughter what is going on. She may also of told her mom(mum for the Cannucks)too. MIL may not care as she already knows.