Are you looking for opinions on what you should do?
I'm kind of puzzled by your questions, if you have a lawyer, he should be able to answer all of your legal questions easily, that's what you have him for right?
not looking for an opinion on what i should do. i just want to know what the process is (ie. does legal separation agreement have to be finalized first? can you go ahead and file while the separation agreement is being worked out concurrently?)
yes, i have a l but every word that comes out of his mouth costs me money. i'm not spending any more money that i have to on a l for a d that i never asked for. and i've already been told that i cannot make him pay for my legal fees.
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If you wait for him to file for divorce, you will be served paperwork, you will consult your lawyer and the process will be in motion at that point controlled by the lawyers and courts.
so can he file at any time during the separation process? i have not been served yet. however, i am bracing for impact. in the past, when i received his financial statements for the separation agreement, i lost sleep, couldn't eat, etc. because i was shocked to see what was on his financial statement.
i simply don't want to be surprised any more. i am concerned that when i am served d papers, i will react the same way or worse. if i know what's coming, i will be prepared.
how soon after he files, will i be served? does he have to deliver the paperwork to me personally? or can he get his lawyer to give it to my lawyer - to avoid confrontation?
i've already been reading a lot of advice that says validate your spouse and then go file yourself. so if he hasn't done it yet, then i'll go ahead and file. i want to save my m but the advice is let go and move on.
that's all i want to know. protocol .. what must happen first .. etc. that way i know what's coming and i won't be surprised when it happens.
i expected it to happen on my birthday. nope. i expected it to happen on my anniversary. nope. i expected it to happen when we sold the house. nope. i was even expecting a 'dear john letter telling me he no longer loved me'. haven't received it yet but i'm expecting one. i scoured the house looking for it the day he moved out.
i no longer want to react to these actions. i want to be prepared. i know i have to let go. maybe d-filing will help me let go because i will have gained control of the situation.
