"We need to talk.... I tried very hard to be this better man for you but no matter how hard I tried and no matter what changes I made I just didn't feel good enough for you and I don't like that feeling of not being good enough. I know now that along with my efforts that dinners, gifts, fancy romantic trips just aren't going to work and I'm ok with that now. I've decided that I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. While I've been working on me hoping you would accept me I never asked you to change or to improve because I just accepted you as you are but it doesn't appear that you can accept me for who I am and It's not good for me as a person to let someone else make me feel bad about myself. So...I think it's best for us to actually be separate during our separation and we should probably stop the sunday dinner thing as well, it's time for reality to set in with our situation, we'll talk to the kids, they will understand as they've been getting used to this separation, I know I have. As for you suggesting dating other people, I think that's a great idea, I've been thinking about it for some time now and you should probably do the same. I'm sure you'll find a nice guy who will treat you good and I know I'll find a good woman to treat me great as well. Hopefully after all of the dust settles on all of this we can be friends."
I will be polite and calm, but not mean or spiteful.
