Would you be able to accept a divorce from your wife if she handled it with DIGNITY and CIVLILITY and RESPECT?
If that's the case, then you aren't trying to control HER or the marriage as much as you are just fighting for your dignity here...
SHe can complain all she wants, but ultimately she has to say something like :
"OK, I do choose to divorce here, but I haven't been honest, I have been disrespectful and cruel to you. I will pursue divorce, but you will have all my respect and consideration through this. I want to RESPECT our TEN YEARS together and leave our marriage with a good memory... I don't want to DEFILE it the way I am donig"
Would you accept that from her?
If you can honestly accept THAT, then this is about you fighting for THAT, not the marriage, and you certainly shouldn't have to leave your home because SHE can't manage her pain safely...
She IS in pain, I don't doubt that, but there's a respectable way to manage pain and disrespectful... She clearly cares little whom she hurts as long as it is an escape from her pain...
This is about your respect QS, you gave her ten years and you deserve better... if she DID that she would PROBABLY even reconsider the divorce entirely... she's just on the wrong damn road... And her parents are USELESS here... useless enablers... educate them if you can man
