I would expose him... When your wife confronts you about it if she does you just tell her you will not tolerate disrespect from her in your own home VERY CALMNLY
Tell her she is free to leave any time... But this is your home and you will not accept disrespect from her while she lives there... IF she confronts you on exposing this creep... Last time you THREATENED to expose him he just shut her out... I say you just expose this guy NOW
I agree!!! This is bullcrap. No man should have to put up with this blatant disrespect IN HIS OWN HOME!