New here, not sure where to start

[Truegritter]

I agree with Puppy.

As long as your H is in contact with OW...

There is no M to work on.

However here is the point at which I think you will find that some of the advice may differ here on the MLC

IF your H is MLC, and no one here is going to tell you that,

THEN the method of how you handle busting the A can be different.

The difference is only in how you approach the MLCer.

If you accept that MLC has at its core an element of irrationality to say the least

Then confronting that person can have really disastrous effects.

That being said.

YOU should take care of you because whether he is MLC or just plain vanilla walk away husband...

You cannot control anything but YOU.

So GAL, detach and use the time for Taylor.

Act as if he isn't coming back because nobody on here can say with any certainty whatsoever whether your M can be saved.

Also a caution here.

Your expectations should be zero.

If you are doing all this stuff thinking your getting H back then it will hurt you.

Do it for YOU.

All of this stuff we tell you, GAL and detaching are tools for YOU.

Make changes for YOU.