And I am thinking on this more... I think there is a LOT of pain on her part and she's escaping it privately with the sex chats and her eagerness to sell the house ....
She's afraid to accept that you aren't the painful person she's fixated on anymore... You're someone else and that frustrates her too...
She just has such a hurtful and childish way of dealing with emotional upset... Her parents really did a number on her... I'm surprised she isnt' drinking herself to death...
Anyways, Pup's warnings are important... YOU will have to decide how much you can take and how much attachment is still there...
My thinking is if she's so angry and so impatient its because tehre's a LOT of attachment still there.. EVEN if her FEAR of more painful marriage memories is reminding her to steer clear of you, She hasn'at left yet... She COULD stay somewhere else if she REALLY wanted to right?
You have to decide how much you can take QS... You have to decide.. Do NOT go up and tell her "you win" or something like that if you decide to emotionally let go... just do it for yourself... MANY LBS' here run to their WS in pain and say "OK you win, I want a divorce I can't take the pain anymore etc"... that's NOT going to help you...
You DO need to let go... emotionally so you can combat this thing... But you have to decide how much pain you can take... I don't think 1 month is NEARLY enough time... But your wife's on self destruct and she's gonna take YOU WITH her if you can't detach emotionally while you fight this thing... You will know when to give up... I certainly wouldn't.. I have been where you are QS.. the sex chats in my own home, the anger and hatred, I have seen it all...
My wife never left... She's sleeping in the next room whie I type this right now...
She railed and and screamed and lied and cheated, but she never left... NOW she regrets all that because she has to look at me every morning KNOWING she did all that and she hates herself for it...
She is addicted QS, out of respect for Pupper's work here I will post this in his support that there iS a point, you will KNOW BEST when that is...
One month in my opinion is NOT enough to killl a wayward spouse's fear and convince them a better marriage is on the horizon... YOU have to decide how much pain you can take while you work to show her that better marriage bit by bit every day
