Re the house, you can just tell her why should YOU have to give up YOUR HOME because SHE prefers a selfish childish escape to civlizied mature respect for each other...
I am thinking on this QS... And if you didn't mean anything to her her she would'nt want to get AWAY from you so badly... She may very likley feel a LOT STRONGER than you THINK... The PAIN is why she wants to escape...
If she's in pain QS, she's still very much attached to you... But she doens't know how to manage the pain and do something HEALTHY for herself to relieve it... She thinks escaping you is the solution to that pain...
I would expose him... When your wife confronts you about it if she does you just tell her you will not tolerate disrespect from her in your own home VERY CALMNLY
Tell her she is free to leave any time... But this is your home and you will not accept disrespect from her while she lives there... IF she confronts you on exposing this creep... Last time you THREATENED to expose him he just shut her out... I say you just expose this guy NOW
