Hi all Its been a very very long time since I was last on these threads - in fact I think my log-in has been deleted, so i have created a new username. I was still able to find my old threads - which I am so glad about will read them again when I’m up to it - I’ve come such a long way since I first joined.
I first joined this forum in April 2007 after my H gave me the ILYBINILWY in Feb 07. We had been married then for 15 years and I must say my world fell apart. When I look back and read my sitch I can still feel the rawness and devastation that i felt to this day. What happened is my H met a women at a friend’s wedding - I was not there - and when he came back he gave me the speech. He then went traveling - telling me he needed space - & stupid me said ok! He then met up with OW & A started. If I have one saving grace in this whole matter it is the fact that the OW lives in another continent to us - and is very far away. He came back told me about it - I freaked - but took him back. Emails & phone calls started - and have basically never stopped. He met up with her 3 more times without my knowledge - all came to a head & said it was either her or me. Finally in April 2009- he choose me & family and we have been trying to pierce things back together.
He says he has nothing to hide - but I still check his emails as I don’t trust him and know he is still in email contact with OW. They phone each other - and on the whole he does tell me when she calls - but what he never tells me, is that he texts her and he has lied constantly about his email- saying he doesn't do it. He is a very friendly man - and flirts to her - now I’m not sure if he is just trying to be friendly and keep it all friendly but he has sent photo’s of himself to her - has just asked for her skype address - and last night asked if she wanted him to give her a love bite - I mean now that just does not sound like “friends”. She has moaned a lot that he doesn’t talk to her as he used to - and that she misses him - and often she says she hasn’t’ heard from him in ages. So I don’t know if they are just being mates or he is just trying to keep her there - for his convenience - like he doesn’t want to let her go - like he likes the fact that someone somewhere is just head over heels in love with him! Selfish B** I know!!
So all - do I confront my H? I know he would be so angry that I have continued to look at his email - but if he had nothing to hide I would have left it. And I wouldn’t be here again.
