"he said "your character is horrible". In general."

We go back to the old times here.. people go with what they know.

I say that.. but I also want to point out that we (you) have to be responsible for the way we act.

He is responding to your reaction "Emotion". You are responding to his reaction "Emotion".

The way you change things in a R is to "see" the reaction.. and respond without "Emotion"

It kinda goes with my theme.. Do Work.

"But I see that when I do it a lot, he sits back and enjoys. It's an old pattern."

Stop doing what does not move you forward.

Pick your "battles".

"And although that is not 100% correct, he snapped"

"So I snapped and said..."

Where is the time you can change things?

So.. for now.. when do you "go away" with him? Are you going to be kid free?

Relax
Eat
Think
Act normal
React.. Smartly.
Do something different.
Emulate.
Do Work.

Lets get "RETARDED" in here.