It wasn't altruistic. I was selfish. *I* got something out of it. *I* got something out of being the martyr. And it wasn't love and respect and gratitude from my H. Nosireebob
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I can relate. I think some of the time it was altruistic...but I think you are right- it made ME feel good to do those things. I never thought of it as a control thing...but perhaps you are right. I need to chew on that for awhile.
What was it that you got in return from your H?
Grit- as always...I need to sit with your posts. Read. Reread. think. Reread. think. Reread.
