Just found out she already filed

[newmama]

"she was the career woman always looking to better herself professionally and I was just the everyday go to work come home kind of guy."

This was me...until fall 2008 when he started the A!

My stbxh was an introverted hermit homebody. I didn't have the opportunity to be a family with him, but could see him being content with the 3 of us.

What are the wives bitching about? I will tell you what my friends(who are still married)complain about...in no particular order...a collection of complaints:

+he waits until he is soooo pissed off before he tells me that he is upset with something I did/am doing....why can't he just talk to me before it builds up?

+he would rather be on the internet/play video games/be on his blackberry/work on his racecar/play with his RC cars....than spend time with me

+when we do spend time together, he just wants to sit at home and watch a movie

+when we go out alone, I have to be the one to carry the conversation...is he even listening to me?

+he doesn't tell me I am pretty or compliment me on stuff

+I wish he would take better care of himself

+I wish he would spend more time on foreplay

+I wish he would help more with chores around the house

seriously, although these are from my married friends, they are the stuff that I hear women complain about the most.

"I tell him I am unhappy. I ask him to change. BUT HE WON'T LISTEN! HE IS SO STUBBORN!He does what he wants!" and you know what? I felt the same about like 2 complaints for my stbxh (that's all I had- he really was a great husband until he cheated, lol!)
my complaints were: I have to carry the conversation (and conversation is one of my LL) and I wanted him to tell me what he was feeling or thinking before it made him so upset.