Just found out she already filed

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I'm wonderinf if I should ask her if she needs anything or if she wants me to keep DD tomorrow too? but if she's good enough to drive to DD's school then she's good enough to drive to the doc/pharmacy etc. Thoughts?

Do not ask her if she needs something. I'm guessing you, like me, were always the one to bail her out on stuff like this.

For 13 years whenever a kid was sick or something popped up at work I would volunteer to sacrifice my job for hers.

Guess where that got me -- a divorce.

In the past year she's called several times complaining about this or that, pausing to see if I would jump in to fix things.

I don't jump in anymore. That's not my job. I told her if she needs something she has to ask.

If you jump in and help then she gets the best of both worlds -- freedom from the M with the advantage of a dedicated man jumping in to help her whenever.