You may feel stilly looking back, but at least you didn't marry your LD spouse knowing how truly LD they are! I feel like the world's biggest chump.
Our situations are otherwise very similar. My H, too, used to like sleeping nude. Now, even after sex, he refuses to be naked. And I am precisely the same way about sex. I want it to be perfect so that he will want me again. Each time, there is a vague discomfort, just feeling like I might be doing something wrong (is THIS what turns him off? Maybe I shouldn't make this noise/touch him there/ask for that?) or focusing on how he is doing. And the minute we are finished, as I am trying to be happy and fulfilled, I am already wondering how long it will be until next time.
I think that counseling is going to be a must for both of us, and perhaps me alone, as well. It really couldn't hurt.
As much as all of this hurts, however, I am so glad to have found this board. It is so selfish of me to feel this way, but it so so wonderful to know I am NOT alone! I just hate that anyone else has to feel this way. But maybe we can truly help each other find some solutions.
