I'm still all about BOUNDARIES. I'd jam the woman's internet before I'd let her sex chat from my own home. And I admire -- and believe in -- Allen's approach when there's an affair involved, up to a point.
We can all debate when that point is, but really, only the affected betrayed spouse knows when that is. But I do think there comes a point where you have to say "You know what, I agree. This really isn't working, and I haven't been listening to you when you say you're no longer interested in being married to me."
At its essence, why do you want to remain married to someone who no longer wants to remain married to YOU?? Now, you can treat it like an addiction, and that is something I believe in, but there comes a time you have to "call the question."
I don't believe in doing this right outta the chute, as Robx and Gucci often advocate. But I do think it's the way to go in situations like Officer in Need's and some of you others that have tried everything, and the wife is just screaming "LET ME GO!!!"
To hang on is not only pathetic an unattractive, but it just ANNOYS THE HELL out of the other spouse.
