Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

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OK 2 conflicting sets of advice from 2 well-respected posters on here. Wow, what to do.

She did say in the session that she feels I can't or won't let her go.

HOWEVER, I am giving her plenty of space and doing things FOR ME. The house thing is based on what I WANT, and not worrying about her and the divorce. I am being an adult and civil, and she is NOT getting en emotional rise from me. Now that I have put so much into it, I am finding I am so happy making a HOME for myself. To hell with what she wants to do to get away.

@Allen. I have a HUGE suit of armor on. But it is difficult because she is so determined, and she always tried to focus on the positives after the divorce. i.e. I will find a better spouse, I will be happier ect.

@Puppy. I know I have to set her free. That's why I am going to hold onto the house and not agree to sell until I am good and ready if at all. I am doing things WITHOUT worrying about what she will think or do.

She is free to leave at any time. But I won't stand for sex chatting and pursuing other men while we live in the same house. BOUNDARY right there, and MUTUAL respect is what I want.

So now the question is how should I proceed.