Quote: Does anyone else "cycle" this? What I mean by that is that you can go for a couple of weeks, months, whatever, where it doesn't seem like THAT big of a deal, and you can kind of push it off. But then, all of a sudden, it becomes this HUGE thing, that no matter what, you can't get off your mind. And then, THAT is when the anger bubbles up to the surface, that your H or W can say something completely innocent that gets you so unbelievably angry that you can't even believe yourself.
Newlywed,
I could have written that paragraph. That's where I am right now and I'm so sick of it! I try to be the perfect husband so that my wife can feel close to me emotionally, I maintain a very positive attitude, then after about a month of my wife still refusing to touch me, cuddle with me, kiss me, or do anything even remotely romantic or sexual, I lose it. Usually I don't intend to start a fight. I say something to indicate that I'm unhappy with the situation, my wife quickly becomes irate, and I become a jerk. That, I believe, makes her feel justified in treating me the way she does. After the fight is over, she resets the "intimacy clock" and the whole process begins again. I'm about a week into the cycle right now.
Just wanted to let you know that I'm dealing with the same cycle. I wish I could tell you how to make it stop. Please keep me in mind if you stumble upon the solution.
