Soxfan feels she has been doing all the work. Does dhe recognize and acknowledge all her husband has done? In my case, I didn't do enough housework, but I did all the yardwork, painted the house,replaced the roof, built a shed, cleared the lot, wired the basement and a ton of other big projects. I worked on many of these things for days and weeks at a time. I also was workin 60 hrs per week and commuting 1 hour each way so she could work close to home. I think we took each other for granted. This is not a one way street. It is easy to feel that YOU are the one doing all the work, even if it isn't true. If you aren't getting the help ypu need or your needs met, you DO HAVE TO ASK. I never refused a request. Mostly she felt like she couldn't ask. Her own issue. When I did an afternoon of housework, I asked if she would then spent an afternoon digging and pulling stumps with me. What do you suppose her answer was? That's what I thought. We are not bad men.
