During the separation..and even until this day..my friends have said "Lola- you are being taken advantage of...he is manipulating you..you are a doormat"...I kind of have to believe that.
You are only a doormat if you believe yourself to be one.
So if you believe it...
If you believe what people tell you, you will always be beholden to that...
You will always be at the whim of someone telling you who or what you are.
Originally Posted By: Lola
There is a fine line between loving unconditionally...and being taken advantage of.
Oh it may seem so.
And other people may tell you it is so.
Until you walk this path and learn they are as far away as if you walked completely around the earth.
Once you embark on this journey to find YOU. It will take you as long as that or as short as when the night turns into day.
When you find yourself, not H, not any of your well wishing friends calling you a doormat, not ANYONE can touch YOU.
You will find that YOU control your own self respect and your dignity.
And unconditional love is no more affected by anyone you choose to give it to, because there is no sacrifice in it...
It is given without expectation.
And therein lies the paradox,
Love (unconditional) has the most value when it is given away for nothing.
And your Dignity can only be taken from you when you let others define it for you by their actions.
Lola on this journey you find the most amazing things...
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
