A friend stopped by and asked me to ride with her to the mall. So I did. She's younger (30) and has had her own "MLC moments" in her marriage where she wasn't sure her H was what she wanted.
She has a philosophy that if you don't have strong enough feelings for your spouse - then it is understandable to walk away. If you aren't in love with them (or as my husband has said "I don't love you the way a husband should love a wife") then you should leave because everyone deserves to be happy.
She is a wonderful friend and I love her to death - but I can't believe how far apart our philosophies are! I believe that the reward of a relationship is found in showing up and doing the work everyday. I believe feelings are generated through actions. At the end of the day - the character it takes to uphold a commitment to a marriage and to a family is one of the greatest rewards around.
I just needed to write it out - I felt a little overwhelmed by naysayers!
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
