Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

a. Afraid it will be the same as before

Absolutely. She in no way believes that a good marriage is possible with me. In fact, she said she doesn't even want a good marriage with me anymore.

b. Confused how to perform the necessary repairs

She does not WANT to make ANY repairs whatsoever. She can't get out of this relationship fast enough.


Here is some of what she said tonight at FC:

-I want to sell the house and get away from you.

-In order to heal, I need to be apart from you.

-He can NEVER be the right match for me. We aren't compatible

-I have never been so clear about what I know I need to do to be happy

-I am NOT willing to invest any more in this marriage

-No matter what you do, or how you change, there is no hope for us

-I want to put the house on the market RIGHT NOW

-Our house is NOT a home anymore. It's a building

-You are clinging on so tightly. Why can't you just realize it's over and agree to sell the house.

-I feel like he is changing and doing these things out of fear of losing me and everything.


Now I said that I was quite enjoying being more involved in the house, and that the divorce was HER decision. I said I wasn't ready to sell the house, and I was going to enjoy every possible moment that I have.

She said "You ONLY think of yourself. You will NEVER change! You are just pushing me farther away. I WILL find a way to leave and you can see what it feels like to be alone".

She is so angry about me not wanting to sell the house so she can move out. I mean FURIOUS. Almost as mad as when I exposed. Now she is going to run and call her mom and her friends and tell them how I "desperately" want to hold on to her, and what a terrible person I am.

Thing is. I took your guys' advice. THIS IS HER DECISION. LET HER FIND A WAY OUT AND DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES.